Picture your mind as the control tower. Everything you attracted
in your life starts from the mind. What we are today is a direct
reflection of what we have been thinking about all those years.
The Bible says “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”
Studies show, the human mind processes on average 6,200
thoughts per day. What you allowed in your mind has governed
where you are at this point in your life, and ultimately what
controls you, everything else is the result of what you think.
Robert Allen phrased it well, when he said “your mind is either a
powerful tool or a destructive weapon”.
From my own life experience, which I shared below, shows a
mind not controlled can easily become a battlefield, which leads to confusion, clutter and absolute corruption of your thinking, often leading down a very dark path.
With each awakening blow of life, I learned the valuable lesson that it is not by my effort that pleases God, but the posture of a serving heart and a clear mind. Trusting God requires the heart, but believing requires the mind.
You are here at this point in your life, and you don’t know what the future holds. You don’t like where you are? you don’t have to stay there; you can change it. You have the potential, the capability and the possibility of what you can become, what you can achieve, what you can accomplish, what you can do in this life.
God gives you the capacity to discover what He wants to do in your life, and I am a testament to that. But here is the catch! God gives us the capacity as a gift, the reality of it is our responsibility.
The question is what will you do with the capacity? What kind of life are you going live? What kind of future do you want to have? Do you care enough about yourself and love God enough to keep your heart clean, and your mind clear, so that you can reach your potential in life?
Make the right decision, a wise decision.
I certainly have no intention to overwhelm or excite you with all sorts of ideas and facts, and then leave you to figure out the details on your own.
I am excited to take this journey with you.
I have been divorced, battled with addiction, financially broke, burdened with debt beyond what I could afford, angry at the world, confrontational, defensive, and the list goes on.
Why am I telling you this?
Because my aim is not to sugar coat anything, and be as vulnerable, expressive, honest & genuine as I can be here.
I am a real guy with real problems and I’m learning how to deal with them just like you guys. But my story doesn’t end there.
I am not much for words, and always find it difficult to find the right words to express myself. I can tell you, I have this great desire to change the world and lead people to the ‘truth’ but find myself unworthy of the Great Purpose. I struggle with sin and temptation daily, so who am I to make a difference?
But I also know if I don’t take action then I allow the enemy to win! So here I am caught in between what I should do and the guilt of not being worthy to lead.
Here is my story—
I grew up in a church setting, I served as a youth and young adult leader majority of my life.
But even though I was serving faithfully, I lived most of my life with no aspirations beyond getting through another day doing more or less what I did the day before. I walked across the stage of life selfishly, achieving nothing, aspiring to nothing, having never a profound or even original thought. Like most people, I lived day to day, in idle, passive pursuit, just looking to things to fill my time and escape reality – Netflix, movies, marijuana (yes, you read that right!), drinking, etc. to get by.
I became self-absorbed with holding an image and material possessions, wanting to be someone I’m not, to impress people I didn’t even know. I battled with insecurity for the longest time, and people’s opinion where a direct reflection of my mood. I valued people’s opinion more than God’s or even my own and it always left me empty.
My pursuit of God became legalistic. As long as I served, I felt that would satisfy my spiritual life. In essence, it became a check list of ‘to-dos’ instead of a relationship with Jesus.
It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom and lost what I thought, at the time, I valued most - my marriage, all my material possession -that I came to a point in my life that forced me to evaluate who I was and what I was becoming. Was I happy with what the man I was looking at the mirror?
I realized I had a vision but no plan, I wanted to succeed but lacked the discipline, wanted to read but lacked the motivation, I had the inspiration but lacked everything else to achieve my goal, and my life was on repeat.
During my journey, I failed countless times trying to learn who I was & good at -what were my strengths, my weakness’, my character, plans God had for me.
This process was one of the most painful experiences of my life.
I began to analyze myself. I looked at my lifestyle - what I ate, what I prioritized, how I interacted with people, who were my close friends, what thoughts I entertained, how I felt, my spending habits, what I had accomplished so far in life, what I really liked doing, how do I measure up emotionally - Do I lose my temper right away or do I remain calm? How much do I allow people to hurt me or have influence on my life?
Am I truly seeking God’s council in everything I do? Seeking Him for strength and courage to face my challenges and unlock the door to opportunities or do I only turn to him only when I need something?
So, with the grace of God, I went to work on myself. I read & listened to countless books and podcasts on how I can find my path. I remember not knowing where to begin, being frustrated & confused not being able to find the answers I was looking for, and gave up so many times. But somehow, I couldn’t sit on the sideline for too long.
Through it all, I started learning that is through my thoughts that my life takes direction. How I see myself, and the world around me.
Where you mind goes, your body follows; where your thoughts go, your life follows.
Instead of ignoring the pain, I learned to lean in to it, embrace and learn from it -use the lessons from my failures to propel me to push forward and make the changes for a future designed by choice.
One thing I started doing differently was asking myself the right questions. I remember reading a quote from Albert Einstein once, that said “the important thing is never to stop asking [yourself] questions”.
Questions like, what do I want to do? What do I want to be? What do I want to see? What do I want to have? Where do I want to go? Why do I want to achieve my goals?
Our vision can be altered by what we tend to focus on.
The more I asked, the more I began to realize a major problem holding me back was my thinking habits, that created this false sense of fear that became the fabric of my existence. I feared a lot of things, the fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of what others may think of me, even the fear of success. As the result, I noticed I limited myself to my false belief and how I thought about myself.
It was a pathetic way of thinking and living!
It was a major WAKE-UP CALL! when I put all this in perspective, I noticed I keep dreaming about being successful, but walking the opposite direction every day. Clear definition of insanity!
I am not here to say I have it all figured out, or have the answers to every problem, but I have learned in order to make a change, you have to begin from within yourself, because trying to fix yourself on the outside will not fix your problems. You need to get to the root cause and not just attack the symptoms, or they will resurface.
This is why I thought I might share some of my struggles, pains, problems & experiences along my journey, being fully transparent and vulnerable, hoping that it will be a guide to anyone willing to read them.
Anyone can live the life they deserve. You just need to change your thinking habit and put the time and effort into it, and with a little bit of push (accountability) and guidance you can get there. We weren’t created to be a slave, yet we act like that daily.
It's time to form your own opinion, understand the world around you, identify your story as part of God’s greater story by seeing how you can make this world a better place, and become who you were meant to be.
This is honestly why I began Called To Purpose. It’s not for fame or glamour, but my passion is to help people think differently and discover their true purpose. To create a community of believers - Believe in yourself, believe in your ability, believe that you were made for more, believe that there is a purpose for your existence.
Even though we all cope with our pains in our own ways, I am a testament that goodness can come from it, if you are willing embrace and learn from the trials. What you are experiencing right now, there are many who have and are still going through it. It might feel like you're all alone and your world is over, that you can’t find the light at the end of the tunnel. I felt that way, but I am there to say, there is hope.
I’ll leave you with something that really changed my perspective:
If you could do better, should you?