I had difficulty trying to find the words to express my understanding of what 'Complaining' really meant to me. It's ironic as I noticed myself complaining about almost everything that hindered the way I wanted things to go and yet could not find the words to express myself.
I complained about almost everything in life: the traffic, the line-up at the grocery store, why people are so arrogant, why the quality of my food is so bad, why I am mistreated, why God doesn't show me favor, why doesn't things work out for me, and the list goes on.
The dictionary defines complaining as "an expression of unhappiness, dissatisfaction, or discontent" – it is thereby an outwardly expression of the discontent from within.
But what do I really have to complain about? Have I become so spoiled in my comfort that anything that deviates from that I complain about?
When I began to reflect on my life, and what really caused me to complain, I realized it was because of my unbelief in God's gracious deliverance and redemption. The Apostle Paul warned that complaining can actually give opportunity to the Devil to work in lives, as it opens the door to "the destroyer," as it did in the lives of the murmuring Israelites, who were destroyed in the wilderness. He said, “Don't complain, as some of them also complained, and were destroyed by the destroyer” (1 Cor. 10:10).
Regardless of whatever circumstances may cause discontent or dissatisfaction, complaining is always an expression of unbelief toward God’s order in our life.
I used to think complaining was an expression of problems, but I have come to realize that problems are the byproduct of complaining. You see, complaining doesn't solve problems, in fact, it attracts them. The more I complained, the more problems I was having. Eventually complaining became the gateway in allowing problems to drown out the voice of Truth, which in turn caused problems to infect people around me. I was no longer a Cure or Light for the lost and hurt, but an infection.
An attitude of grumbling, griping, murmuring, squawking doesn’t change anything or make situation