One of the areas of I have been struggling with to control are my inner thoughts.
Every day I practice learning how to differentiate between the things I have no control over- like my separation or other people's action or thoughts and the things I do have control over - like working on my becoming a better person and helping people.
My problem is that I want to be in control and know everything, and if there is something that doesn't make sense, I can't stop thinking about it, and this pattern end up effecting my mood, my work performance and my interaction with people.
I notice I become very impatient, easily irritable, and have no desire to do anything or talk to anyone. Then I start doubting myself and suffer with hopelessness for a few days before I feel better again.
I recently tried shifting my focus on my values, reading a lot of books on people who have gone through similar pain & struggles, and God’s promises for my life when I notice my mind drifting back to these negative thoughts, and it has really helped steer my thoughts back in to a positive direction, giving me faith and hope that I am not alone and it will get better. But it's not bulletproof and I find some days it works better than other days.
I am slowly learning that it’s ok not to have all the answers, as long as I work on myself everyday and put my faith in God, He will work all things for my good.